Monday, June 15, 2009
not so serious
So I just got done reading Crystals blog and that shit was crazy. I mean I know everything in it already because das my peoples but the crazy shit was her candor about everything. She definately holds back nothing. Anyways she talks a whole lot about relationships. It got me thinking about what I need and want from a relationship. Which led me to analyze relationships in general. Heres my observation and opinion. In life we are looking for another person to love. We are afraid to love in case they dont love back. We give and take depending on whats being given and recieved, how its being given and recieved and a thorough determination of the motives of another person. So when we compare these motives with our own we either take it further or terminate the relationship. Okay so even if you meet someone with the same motives as yourself and you are both genuine people, the probability of those motives staying the same forever is not likely. Everyday people change. Who I am today surely will not be the same as who I am tomorrow and if it is than I have wasted a day not growing. True the inner you remains the same but your likes an dislikes change. Your goals and desires change. So if you are changing and your significant other is changing it can statistically be decided that the chance that what you want and what he wants, what you like and what he likes, what you live for and what he lives for will change. So will you and him mesh as good as you did before? the connection cannot and will not be the same. So do people stay together to make the marriage work? To not be failures in the eyes of others? To not be alone? Do people sacrifice themselves for the security of a marriage? Or can two people grow together and fall more in love everyday. And if they can and if they do should one feel less worthy because they happen to not? Does that mean they didnt work as hard for the relationship? I titled this post not so serious because it was supposed to be light and easygoing..damn my bad..
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LOVED THE POST, seriously. You posed some great questions and up until I met my wife I used to ask those exact same things but sometimes it does happen sometimes you do find exactly what you are searching for. It's harder now than it ever was for generations before us but it is possible. I can honestly say I fall in love each and everyday with my wife all over again and thats not any bullshit im just trying to feed to you or anyone else and I tell her that all the time. In the past I fell more and more OUT of love everyday thats why I knew she was who I needed not wanted but NEEDED to spend the rest of my days with on this earth. But you are right Jerz most people are just afraid, scared...I mean look at me how many men would go on Twitter and speak so openly about thier wife or being deeply in love for fear that they may get laughed at or it may hurt their chances at sneaking around with some chick from online. Fear makes people get divorced, shit fear even makes some people get married, but you cant be fearful...when I met my wife i got to the edge of the cliff and took a leap of faith and she hasn't let me fall yet so I am not afraid of tomorrow, 10 years, 20 or 30 years down the line because I know I have all I need in her. This was an amazing post Jerz and you need to put it up on Twitter so everyone can come and read it, and hopefully they will be moved like I was and leave you some energy...your boy Dwight aka NEO
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